Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Two Under Two'sday - Week 10

Sleep.



Not sure where to start this week other than it's been awful.  Not the baby, her's has been on par for her age.  Some nights sleeping long stretches, others waking up more often.  We really should move her to her room, probably could have a month ago (she's 10 weeks now!), but it just easier grabbing her from the bassinet next to the bed and laying her back as opposed to walking down the hall and therefore getting more awake in the process.

But, that's not where we are going with this.  This is about the toddler.

Two Fridays ago this started.  Going bed was impossible.  Dad did the usual routine and when he put her in tbhe crib and she freaked.  He went back in, but she wouldn't settle, so he just left thinking she'd cry for a few and quit, sit down, and go to sleep.

No.

After 15 minutes maybe I headed up.  Tried my hand at rocking and singing and putting her down. No.
Long story short, she didn't fall asleep until 10pm after I stood over her crib repeatedly turning on her soother ("jungle") and she fell asleep.

Some how the next night was easy, but every night sense has been a nightmare.  When our in laws came to stay with us on Wednesday after they lost power during the ice storm, we went out and bought a new night light.  Hoping the new novelty and change in routine would work.  She's pretty obsessed with the stars and we've changed bed time to reading, then getting in the crib which elicits some tears, and we'll ask her to lay down so she can see the stars.  A few nights I had to tell her stories, all including "mouse".  Now we no longer need to story tell or stand over the crib, but sit comfortably in the chair.  However, if we leave too soon she flips out.

She's also been waking up in the middle of the night like the world is ending.

Now that the in laws have left, we are going back to a bit of crying and fussing.  I don't mind her crying  if she isn't hyterical or in need (hungry, wet, scared).  Usually her 'complaining' cries end quickly, when they don't and the start to escalate, I head in because I'm sucker and I don't think it's right for her be scared or hysterical.

She is about to cut a tooth, and her eating habits have been a bit off, so I hope some of this is contributed to that and that it just comes through already, but overall this doesn't really seem like 'classic' teething.  It seems like 'almost two starting to have fears - possibly the dark or being left alone - and exercising control (ie. manipulation)'.

I would love to hear if anyone has gone through anything similar and what worked with getting back on track or to old routines.  While it seems we've figured it out with just sitting around until she sleeps, it's not really ideal.





In other news, the In Laws got their power back over the weekend, we are forecasted to get another 10+ inches on Wednesday night, and Kenley got a shot today that she missed at her 2 month check up.  And that's life.

Send coffee.

24 comments:

  1. Oh man! The no sleep part I am DREADING. Mostly due to the toddler as well. She is 20 almost 21 months and has never slept in her own bed (AGH). We are currently in the process of moving her only due to the fact that she will ONLY sleep in our bed if I am in it. Obviously with a new baby I will have to get up to feed, change, hush etc. This would mean her waking up everytime I get in or out of bed. Shoot me now. Remind me that this is a short phase in about a month. Your kiddos are cute as can be. My girls eating has been off too and her sleep has been more disruptive than normal - teeth. I hope that is the cause and they come through SOON!

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  2. How old is she? We are having problems with middle of the night wakings now, for about a month. My daughter is almost 19 months. She wakes up, stands, and refuses to lay back down until we come in and do so. I'm at the point where I want to let her cry but like you said hate if she's being hysterical. :( Wish I could offer some advice, but you're not alone in having sleep issues!

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  3. It is definitely common! Granted Sydney didn't start sleeping through the night until she was right at three years old... But there were points when actually putting her to bed was awful. We did what you were doing and it always turned out that she was getting sick or something when it happened. But it only takes a couple of days to form a habit and it happened every single time. So then we had to find a routine that made her more comfortable. Now we do story time sitting in her bed. I fill her water and daddy comes in to kiss her. Then o come back in, tuck her in a specific way, and then sing her our own little lullaby. Then I kiss her and tell her I love her,and she letsme leave the room. This routine used to be way longer, but she has let me shorten it over time. I remember sitting in her room rubbing her for thirty minutes and the moment I stopped touching her to leave the room she would wake up and start crying. But it does get better.I promise,

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  4. YES! YES! YES! I've been trying to shorten it and change it a bit each night. Last night, dad waited until she fell asleep, but she was up 2 hours later. I came in, changed her, put the stars back on and rubbed her back, she fell asleep. I stopped rubbing her back and waited a minute and she woke immediately and was about to freak until she saw me standing over her.


    I tried leaving her door open last night so she could see our room (and our door open). I usually shut both so she wont hear the baby cry and wake. It took her 3 hours to go back to bed, but at least I was able to be in my room and she was quiet in the crib. Ayi yi yi!

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  5. The main thing that really helped me was telling her that I was just in the other room and that I promised I would come and check on her. Knowing that she wouldn't be aloe all night long seemes to really help even now.

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  6. i can't believe she's STILL doing it!! its got to be a phase- one that involves teeth and probably toddlerhood. we haven't hit this stage yet. . . but i'm 100% sure its coming for us sometime too!

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  7. It must be a phase - I'm going through the exact same thing with my 17 month old, although he goes straight to bed by himself no problem for our babysitter. I think it's teeth (and schedule disruption because Mama and Daddy have been traveling a bit this month) because that's really the only time he ever has sleep issues. We've tried a little extra milk and a dose of tylenol at bedtime lately but he is still waking up around 2 a.m. freaking out! Hope it gets better for you - let us know if you find anything that works! - Tara / tannerandpark.com

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  8. They are SO CUTE! I love the hats! :) Hopefully it's still a phase!!!

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  9. She's almost 22m (2 in April). We had problems around 19m when we brought Kenley home, but that seemed pretty standard and after a week or two things went back to normal. They also weren't so extreme, she'd actually fall asleep or not cry like the world was ending. She was pretty much doing the same thing as your daughter at 19m, getting up and wanting a hug and a snuggle and would go back after. Hopefully your phase is short lived!!

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  10. Aw, I hope the transition goes smoothly! I usually don't get too worked up about bad sleep. I know it's pretty normal and she won't be doing this as a teen. Fingers crossed it's all teeth and ends soon!

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  11. I can confirm the manipulation! Hadley started this just before turning 2. We then switched her to the big girl bed hoping it would help. It didn't. Never could figure if it had to do with the dark or just being left alone. I'm guessing the latter. We did all the same things you described and sitting in the room with her turned into sitting at the foot of the bed and here we are a year later having to do the same every single night to get her to bed. She just seems afraid to go to bed herself. We trade off each night on who sits with her and it takes anywhere from 10 minutes to 45 (rare though) for her to fall asleep and then we leave. It's not fun but it's not the end of the world either. At least she sleeps in her bed and then gets in around 5am or so and gets in ours. I'm okay with that. We're hoping to start backing away slowly, like sit in the chair for awhile then tell her she has to go it alone. I'm hoping to start this in the coming months. We tried crying it out SO MANY TIMES. Sometimes this lasted a solid hour and yes I waited THAT LONG! She was just scared. Wish I had better advice but know you aren't alone!

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  12. I feel for you, Erinn!! Sofia does the same thing whenever she's getting a new tooth, it lasts about a week and then she's back to her normal sleep pattern. Lately, when she wakes up crying, we go and run her paci under cold water so it's dripping wet and give it to her...not sure if it's the element of surprise or what, but it gets her attention and she'll fall back asleep. Sofs also has the Cloud b Turtle nightlight that we let her hold in the crib until she falls asleep...that's our desperate move! http://www.amazon.com/Cloud-Twilight-Constellation-Night-Turtle/dp/B000BNQC58

    Hang in there friend!

    xo

    Megan

    Hello
    Newlywed Life Blog

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  13. Oh no that is just awful!! I feel ya on keeping the babe in your room. That is the exact reason Ellie stayed in our room until she was 7 months old!! (that and we were waiting to get a monitor , ie. christmas money for one!)

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  14. Yeah, A was more like that too when teething which is why I think this is something else because she doesn't fall back asleep - last night she was up for 3hrs! It's just different, plus she's usually totally normal during the day, which when teething it was more an around the clock issue. This really seems like it's boiling down to being left alone :( I guess we'll start leaving the doors open and hope her sister doesn't wake her. We just got the Cloud b Lady Bug and she's loving it, but not enough to let us leave lol

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  15. Sometimes I love following in your footsteps... other times no!! Haha, kidding. My goal was to hopefully shorten the routine night by night. One less story, one less song, sitting or stepping further away from the crib, etc. Last night I was able to sit in our bedroom with the baby while she watched us from the crib since she can see in our room from hers when doors are open. I guess that'll be the new deal. At least i can watch tv or get on the laptop, hopefully she gets used to it and just starts falling asleep faster and not being scared since doors are open and all

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  16. I wish I had some advise, but unfortunately we're in a similar boat. A few weeks ago it was really bad... it took us 45minutes to and hour of rocking to get him to sleep, and then things got a bit better and now it's only about 20 minutes. But he still wakes up in the middle of the night and gets up early. I feel so bad when he wakes up screaming like he had a terrible nightmare. I could never let him cry that out. Maybe an afternoon toddler triathlon would help!

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  17. I am so glad to hear someone else is going through this (I feel bad for your pain though). My daughter use to LOVE bed/nap time. She would get excited to play in her crib and just fall asleep without any problems. Now, you even mention the word bed or nap and she starts absolutely freaking out. It's a war to get her pajamas on and then she screams hysterically because she knows it is bed time. She hasn't been napping at all because she doesn't calm down. I've been letting her nap on me, which obviously isn't ideal. At night, she eventually calms down. I'm not sure what the deal is at all. It is absolutely scary to heat her so upset. You are correct, it's like she is afraid of something or has developed some sort of fear. Part of me feels like it might be separation anxiety related because she has been upset if I take a step away from the buggie while at the store if I take too long getting in the car. She has also started crying for an hour after daddy leaves for work in the morning. I hate this because I don't know how to fix it and she is obviously going through something she can't quite figure out. :( please keep us posted on how things pan out in your neck of the woods. We are trying to keep the routine as normal as possible because she is definitely the type of child that seeks comfort in routine. -hugs!

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  18. God bless you! It will pass!

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  19. Have you had her ears checked? It's rare for my son to have restless nights and the times that he has, he's had ear infections. He's fine during the day but cries throughout the night. We're dealing with one right now :(

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  20. I'm pretty sure our daughters need to have a therapy session to figure out what the heck is going on! Bella does the exact.same.thing. Although she has never been a good sleeper, lately it has been terrible. She USUALLY goes to bed pretty well, except for last night which I'm hoping doesn't become the norm because the minute I got her settled in the 3 month old started screaming her head off terrifying me that she was going to re-wake her sister. We are getting desperate. We have tried the humidifier and the sound machine and she still wakes up screaming in the middle of the night and she was up for 3 hours one night. My dad is a chiropractor and he checked her mid back Saturday and it was way out (probably from throwing herself off the couch too many times) and he adjusted her and she slept through that whole night. But that was short lived and she is back to being up. And to top it off she is up at the ass crack of dawn 5:45am. Maybe we just need to start a group therapy with coffee infused wine. Let me know if you get anywhere. Or if you want to borrow another toddler :)

    Alyssa
    loveandlifesimplified.blogspot.com

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  21. Glad to hear it's not just us with a no-sleep toddler! He was doing alright for the first couple of weeks and now he cries when we try to put him to sleep. We're doing the same thing, let him be unless he's really upset. It seems to be working ok! Hopefully it doesn't last long!

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  22. UGH you poor thing! sleep issues are the WORST! I have not had this issue yet with Blair but am sure my time will come. Oh man, I'll be prayin' for you! And let us know if you discover a good solution to the madness. :(

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  23. We had some similar issues back in November...Sadie and I packed up and left town suddenly to attend a family funeral in PA. We drove and ended up staying up there for about a week. While she did amazingly well in the car, everything was just such a huge adjustment and change for her...even though we tend to keep a more loose & flexible schedule as it is. Anyway, while we were there, she slept with me at night. The trip up and back was split up so that we stopped at hotels for 2 nights each way and then stayed with my sister while we were there. We ended up sleeping in 5 different places over the duration of the trip and if I tried to put her to bed alone in her pack-n-play, she was immediately in hysterics that wouldn't stop. There was just way too much going on for her to feel comfortable enough to sleep by herself in places she didn't know, so I laid down with her every night (and for naps) until she feel asleep. By the time we got back home, we had some major bedtime issues and she would bawl her eyes out the second you carried her into her room, if she knew a nap or bedtime was coming. We got back on track over the course of about 4 days by gradually easing her back into her routine. She's always been the type to go to bed wide awake and put her self to sleep within a few minutes. I started by holding her and rocking her to get her nice and relaxed and then I would literally stand bent over her crib letting her hug my neck as she cried once I tried to lay her down. Once she was convinced I wasn't going to leave her, she settled a bit and would sit down. The poor thing was so sleepy she was falling asleep sitting up until she finally gave in and laid down....and I waited a few min. until after she was asleep to leave the room. After one or two nights of that she would stay calm and laying down if I stayed and rubbed her back until she fell asleep...that lasted about 2 nights or so. Then the following night we said her prayers and laid her down like normal and left the room right away. She immediately started crying but I let her go for a bit and within a few minutes she started to settle and a few min. after that was calm and fell asleep.
    Soooo, that long winded story was my way of suggesting maybe "baby-stepping" your way back to the routine that you had going before it all went to crap! We haven't had any issues like that since (thankfully!) but we've been dealing with increasingly regular 2 or 3am wakups that usually require a diaper change, a bit of milk and a few min of rocking....I'm guessing teeth are the culprit this time as she's a SUPER late teether and only has 9 at 20 months! Good luck, mama! xoxo

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  24. So crazy how similar! I was doing the same thing, the babysteps. We now just leave her door open and turn on her stars (Cloud B Ladybug). I stay in my bedroom with the door open, since she can see it from her crib and everytime she calls "mommy" I tell her I'm here and that she needs to lay down. She's been shortening her time and I'm hoping I can just go downstairs with the door open soon. Baby steps, but she's been improving so I'm happy there haven't been tears. Slowly, slowly!

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